My name's Chris and I write everything on this site. I'm also the person behind www.succeedsocially.com, a free collection of articles on basic social skills, getting along with people, and getting your act together.
I'm a guy in his late twenties who lives in Canada. I'd consider myself contentedly average when it comes to women. I'm currently in a long-term relationship. Before that I dated a little and had a few hook-ups. Nothing worth writing home about - any halfway cool guy has done the same things if he's been so inclined - but it's a far cry from where I started.
I didn't lose my virginity, or even kiss a girl until I was in my 20's. And even after that it still took me a lot of time to get over many of my issues. Looking back, I think my biggest problem was that I was extremely anxious around the opposite sex. But I was also a very dorky, socially awkward guy who spent much more time playing video games than hanging around with other people.
Like lots of guys, for a while I thought my salvation lay in learning a bunch of tricks and techniques to pick up girls. That did help me somewhat, but I started making the most progress when I got to work on improving my underdeveloped people skills and becoming a more genuinely attractive, sociable person. Things started to click into place after that. It was a slow process to make up for my years of interpersonal inexperience, and to get over my various insecurities and hang ups, but I gradually started to become more of the kind of person I wanted to be and have the kind of success I was looking for.
I'm not saying for a second I'm some kind of expert on the opposite sex, but I do think I've learned some things about going from Below Average to Average in that department that can help other guys that are in the same position I was once in.